What To Say To A Woman On Your First Date
You never get a second chance to make a first impression… and it’s never more true than when it comes to first dates.
Yet, knowing this, what do most guys do the first time they take a woman out?
They approach a first date from the perspective of “I don’t want to mess up.” So they try too hard. They overthink things. They get tongue-tied or talk too much or freeze up.
Worst of all… their insecurity and desperation makes everything they do come across as awkward, needy, or boring.
So what’s the answer? How do you go into a first date feeling confident, in-control, and ready to say and do everything right?
Like everything else in life, it takes is a little preparation… and your old friend David D. is here to help you cram for the exam.
The key to acing any first date boils down to just one thing: making sure that everything you say and do tells a woman that you have OTHER OPTIONS… that you’re making a choice about HER as much as she is about YOU.
|What To Say To A Woman On Your First Date
Thing is, you can’t begin to send that message until you eliminate the BIGGEST mistake that most men make on first dates…
Don’t Be Boring
A first date isn’t a job interview or a press conference.
Problem is, most guys treat it that way. They think that if they play it safe by asking the same old questions, they might succeed with a woman by not doing anything wrong.
And that’s understandable… it’s only natural to feel a bit nervous and insecure. So we stick with safe, boring, predictable conversations and questions like, “So what do you do for a living?” or “Have you lived around here long?” or “What are your hobbies?”
Even worse, we launch into questions that reek of neediness and desperation… “So, how do you think it’s going?” Or “Do you think we’re a good match?” Or worst of all: “Do you like me?”
These questions are the most lethal ATTRACTION KILLERS on the planet.
So stop using them immediately.
What do you need to talk about instead?
Things that spark INTEREST and ATTRACTION in a woman, signaling that you’re that one-in-a-million guy she’s looking for who can make her life more FUN.
Here’s a surefire way to get started on the right path:
Adopt The Right Mindset
Nothing’s more powerful than adopting a mindset on a first date that “lowers the stakes.”
Stop thinking of her as an unattainable goddess, or your future wife, or your last chance for happiness in life. When you do that, you’re setting the bar so high that you can’t help but feel nervous… and therefore make mistakes.
Instead, imagine that she’s nothing more than your bratty little sister.
Basically, act like she’s someone that annoys you, bothers you, and will probably screw up her chances with YOU… and that you couldn’t care less. Like, if she walked out the door, you’d be on to the next woman in about five minutes (because, with my help, you WILL be.)
Keep a fun spirit about this, of course.
But once you adopt this mindset, magical things start to happen.
You instantly feel more relaxed and in-control… which frees your mind (and your tongue) to stop screwing things up with boring, desperate conversation she hears from every other guy… which then makes you stand out as a guy she wants to spend more time with.
The Keys To Sparking ATTRACTION
Once you know how to create fun, interesting conversations… being Cocky & Funny… enjoying yourself… not trying to impress a woman… you will effortlessly spark feelings of ATTRACTION in a woman that she’s helpless to resist (and will move mountains to get more of).
Here are a few of my favorite ways to do it…
The greatest sign of confidence in a man is his ability to take control of a situation – and the best way to do it is with humor.
So go for it.
If a woman happens to be wearing something unusual or interesting on the date, or if she orders something weird to eat, or if she makes a mistake or acts shy, tease her about it.
Be gentle and make sure it’s funny, and she’ll instantly feel a spark.
What makes you notice something?
It’s when something’s different. So create that difference right from the start with a woman by reversing roles on a date.
Ask her to open doors and pull out your chair for you. Ask why she can’t pick up the check like all of the women who ask you out always do. Invite yourself back to HER place.
Doing just this much sets you apart as a guy who is interesting and DIFFERENT.
This one’s money in the bank – nothing makes a woman sit up and take notice like your lack of interest in her.
So explain that her you’re tired of always talking about yourself with women. Ask her to tell an interesting story about herself instead (Bonus: you’ve now transferred the pressure to HER.) Check your watch and unleash a funny yawn while she’s talking about some other guy. Cut the date short because you’ve got somewhere else to be.
All of this will make her go out of her way to win YOU over.
While we’re on the subject…
ALWAYS BE A CHALLENGE
This is the big one…
Women don’t want doormats. And the quickest way to prove you’re NOT one is to make her work for your attention.
Whenever she asks a question, be difficult or evasive in a funny way. Make her dig for every answer that you give her.
Be sure to let her know that you have a lot to do and very little time, so you’re not sure when you’ll see her again.
Do all this in a cocky, funny way, and you’ll accomplish two critical first-date goals:
You’ll makes a woman curious about you – chances are, she has NEVER seen a guy act like this on a first date before.
You’ll excite her and gets her craving more… like I said, the biggest thing missing from her life is FUN – now you’re showing her that you can deliver it.
In other words, make sure that everything you say and do on a first date communicates the opposite of “I’m a nervous, needy Wuss just like every other guy you go out with.”
Once you learn how to do it, it will blow your mind how women hang on your every word… how they get all nervous around YOU… and (most importantly) how they start begging you for a SECOND DATE.